Why Did You allow My Divorce?

Romans 8:28 (NIV)

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Divorce was never God’s original plan but sometimes, He allows things that break us in order to rebuild us in a way we never expected.

I was married for nine years. It was rocky from the beginning. I got married very young, not out of rebellion, but out of longing. I desperately wanted to be loved by a man, to be seen, chosen, and cherished. I wanted to be a successful wife to beat the odds.

As a young woman with a disability, I believed my chances for love were limited. I had been given a death sentence , told I likely wouldn’t live more than five years. So we rushed into life assuming there wasn’t much of it left. That weight changed everything. There was pain. There was fear. And slowly, our marriage unraveled under the pressure of grief, unmet expectations, and emotional survival.

I didn’t want to be divorced. I didn’t choose it lightly.
But somehow, even through the heartbreak, God met me there.

He showed me that He’s not done with me.
That healing is possible, even after something as soul-shaking as divorce.
And maybe the most surprising thing of all God didn’t just begin healing me. He began healing my ex-husband too.

We both realized something we had never truly grasped before:
Our value doesn’t come from our marriage or lack thereof.
It comes from being sons and daughters of a God who never walks away.

So if you’re wondering why God allowed your marriage to fall apart, or why you’re waking up alone after years of trying to make it work know this:
God hasn’t abandoned you.
He’s still writing your story.
And even in what feels like failure, there can be freedom.
Not because divorce is good, but because God is still good, even in it.

Prayer:
God, I don’t understand all the why’s, but I trust You with the what’s next. Thank You for staying with me through the grief of divorce. For reminding me that I am still whole in You. Heal what was broken, Lord, not just in my heart, but in my identity. Help me walk forward knowing I am loved, chosen, and redeemed no matter what chapter I’m in. Amen.